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You're not shy. You're not afraid of being in public, it's just that you are no good at superficial chit-chat, gossip and socializing with strangers.
Rejection while cold calling or knocking on doors very quickly "shuts you down" and makes it almost impossible for you to pick up that phone again.
When you spend an evening at a social function with people you don’t know or don’t like, you feel "drained" and "exhausted". It takes several hours of "alone-time" to recharge our energy.
You may very well be an Introvert!
Throughout history most great business accomplisments have come from introverts, however, introverts often feel like faillures because they aren't good at the things extrovert small business people do - things that at first glance seem critical to success such as: cold calling, sparkling at social functions, making immediate connections with new prospects, etc.
It can be very hard, being an introvert in this extrovert world. Everyone expects you to be outgoing and to enjoy spending lots of time in crowded events, making small-talk with strangers.
Most books about sales and networking are written by extroverts, most sales programs are designed by extroverts, most companies expect you to be an extrovert and do extrovert things - NO WONDER YOU FEEL LEFT OUT!
Stop beating your head against a wall - stop doing things that drain you - do things YOU are good at and that energize you! Talk with Coach Mark van Stolk. As an introvert himself, he understands the needs of an introvert and the strategies, techniques and activities that work specifically for introverts.
10 Introversion Myths
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is completely false. Introverts don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting ,they need a reason. If you want to talk to them, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush . They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If have an introvert as a friend , then you have got a loyal nad trustworthy friend for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
This is complete rubbish. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.”
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They don’t make most decisions based on what is the “IN” or popular thing.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who pay close attention to their thoughts and emotions.It is not that they are not interested or aware of the outside world or things happening around them. It’s just that their inner world is much more appealing, stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and party freaks. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down and go off in their own world.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural self , behaviour and contributions to the society.
From: http://filledbeans.com/top-ten-myths-about-introverts/
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